“Writing, when properly managed, (as you may
be sure I think mine is) is but a different name
for conversation.” ~ Laurence Sterne
I love blogging.
But seven months ago, I lacked the courage to even try it.
As I searched for information about children’s publishing on the web, I stumbled across one blog, then another.
I was impressed, inspired, and intimidated all at the same time.
I found Cynsations, Fuse #8, Blue Rose Girls, MotherReader, Lisa Yee, Seven Impossible Things Before Breakfast — and instantly felt connected to a community. I had never met any of these people in person, but I was intrigued by their voices. There were book reviews, accounts of book signings and school visits, interviews with authors and illustrators, and the inside scoop on publishers, agents, and editors.
And I thought, what a grand conversation!
I lurked for months, until one day I finally screwed up enough courage to post my first comment on bloomabilities, the personal blog of Little, Brown, editor, Alvina Ling. My hands shook as I typed. The thought of saying something to a stranger, with a vast, unknown public reading, and no way of ever taking it back, was terrifying. But she had posted about an unpleasant incident in a karaoke bar, where she and her friend were the targets of racist remarks by one of the employees. I was incensed, and couldn’t remain silent. So I forced myself to offer what little sympathy and support I could.
So on August 4, 2007, I wrote
my first public post, and four days later, I received my very first comment, from Kris Bordessa of Paradise Found. Now, a day hasn’t passed that I haven’t learned something new, or been excited about what I’m going to post about next.Blogging has helped me write faster and focus better. It has prompted me to research, reflect, and ruminate on topics I truly love, and most important, it has enabled me to meet other bloggers and hear their stories and opinions. I think back to when I published my picture books, before blogs existed. I had written them in isolation, and when they were sold, there was no online community to share the good news with, no message boards or personal blogs to promote them, no soft place to fall when a negative review came out.
Blogging is an exciting, new art form. Everyone has the opportunity to create whatever kind of blog they wish, experiment at will, and use the blogging platform to whatever end they desire. There is no right or wrong way to blog.
When I first started, I agonized over what to say. But gradually I realized what a gift I had been given. For much of my writing career, the word I kept hearing from editors was “no.” It was like I needed their permission to speak, for them to say, yes, what you’re saying in this story is worth telling, is worth sharing with a larger audience. They judged everything I wrote. I knew all about not taking anything personally, about persisting despite rejection. But still, there was that deep-seated feeling that unless they said it was okay, I should remain silent.
Until now. I don’t need anyone’s permission to blog. I decide what to say, and how to say it, and take full responsibility for what I post. This is a kind of empowerment I have never experienced before, and it’s heady and addicting. My blog is a place to take a subject or a feeling and run with it, to fully stretch my writing muscle without the pesky editor that plagues my other projects. I am happy to promote other authors and their books, old or new, whenever I can. And I am thrilled to be in the company of so many talented, generous, and supportive people in the kidlit blogging community.
I’m so glad I found my voice.
**For more insight on the blogging experience, be sure to check out “The Beauty of Blogging,” in SisterDivas Magazine, with Live Journal’s Melodye Shore (
), Susan Winning (
), and Tori Winning
(
)!
Beautifully said and written, Jama.
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I’m so glad you joined the conversation, jama. I love coming here each day and hearing what you have to say. Keep talking!!!
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Thanks. I needed that.
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I’m glad you found your voice, too, and I’m very glad that I discovered your blog. Your ideas are delicious, attractively and graciously served. 🙂
(Thanks so much for referencing our SisterDivas article! I wonder…did you notice that Susan linked to one of your entries?)
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I’m glad you are blogging! I read your blogs every day that you post.
And, I love the picture! Woot!
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Wonderful post! I lurked for a long time before my first post and then… the beast was released!
Thank you so much for commenting on my first post on our nonfiction blog yesterday. I was rather intimidated by our list of great nf writers. Yay, I got a comment and it was YOU!
BTW I still owe you a picture of my bear line. Any bear lover is a friend of mine!
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blogging
I’m still mostly a lurker, and I usually don’t comment, but I do enjoy reading blogs including yours. I do wish you would use a slightly larger font to make it more comfortable to read, but aside from that, great job.
Barbara
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Thanks, Linda!
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Thank you again for inspiring me to blog. Read*Write*Believe has set some kind of gold standard for me, and for many other bloggers, too, I’m sure!
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You’re very welcome!
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Thanks, Melodye. I just realized I forgot to put in the link to the article. And yes, I did notice Susan’s link to my post, and wanted to comment at your tea party, but that week there was a duck in my kitchen quacking very loudly. Ever since I read the SD piece and the ensuing discussion, I’ve been wanting to post about blogging — only getting around to it now.
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So glad you took that leap of courage and happy to get to know you!
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Thanks so much, Julia. I really appreciate your taking the time to read. I think your kitties want to visit me.
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I was so excited to see your post on I.N.K., Anna! Good job :). Ooh — bear line? Bring it on!
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They’ll be on the next flight! 🙂 (I need a vacation! Mr. Cattingham has decided the cursor on my iMac is the next best thing to a real mouse – Help!)
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Re: blogging
Thanks, Barbara. I’m trying to use the larger font more often in my posts, but I can’t alter the font in the comments.
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The feeling is mutual!
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I don’t suppose your kitties do housework?
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No – they just create the need for it! 😮
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What a wonderful post. I’m so glad you started blogging and found your voice. 🙂
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Thanks, I see you got your missing teeth back.
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You’re glad???? We’re glad. Your voice is such a distinct and generous and resonant one. Lucky all of us, Jama…
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I can very much relate to this… I spent way too many years saying NOTHING because I didn’t think anyone would care what I had to say… well who cares?? It’s very liberating. 🙂 Thanks for posting this.
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Aw, shucks. You’re too nice. (Extra shipment of chocolate being sent to you immediately.)
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I kind of think women experience more of this than men. Do you agree?
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What a nice post, Jama! I’m glad you started blogging – what would the world be without those yummy recipes and awesome alphabet soup messages?!
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Well-said, Jama. And I’m so glad you found your voice, too.
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Thanks, Barbara. I like that Hawaii postcard you posted today :)!
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You do realize you’re a constant inspiration and standard of excellence, don’t you? Mr. Darcy will never be the same.
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I’m glad you found your voice, too, Jama! I enjoy the things that you have to say.
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Hear hear! (And now I know how to pronounce your name too! I was saying JAR-MA)
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Jama, with your heart and humor and wisdom all out there I would have thought you’d been blogging forever, not seven months. There is hope for us all. So so glad you spoke up.
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Lovely post, Jama.
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Thanks, Jen. I’m constantly learning from you. Maybe I can be you when I grow up?
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Congrats on passing your exam! I just went to the eye doctor today, and they said my name wrong (as usual). If I only had a dime every time . . .
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I bow to you, Jeannine. And one day we’ll meet up in MA.
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Thanks Vivian. I was so so impressed with how you handled those first graders! It’s pretty astounding when you consider that the hour or so you spent with them may well have changed their attitudes towards books for the rest of their lives!
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Oh, certainly a duck quacking loudly in the kitchen simply “must” take precedence. Don’t worry, we’ll have another tea party and you’ll be at the top of the list. And Tori says, Please feel free to bring the duck 🙂
p.s. we’re so glad to have found your blog and look forward to reading it on a daily basis, as we drink our morning coffee
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Funny, because I’m still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up, Jama. If I figure it out, I’ll certainly let you know.
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Hi there, Susan! So glad you’re having another tea party (I’m having one in April, too, and you’re all invited)!
Tell Tori the duck has gone home (he belonged to Jackie Urbanovic). But I’m writing about one myself, and he might start acting up soon. Don’t know if he’ll be “civil” enough for a tea party.
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We could have the Feather Table set up for him by the window. It’s a prime spot, and might just distract him long enough for the rest of us to down our tea! I’m sure he’d have great fun playing Duck, Duck, Goose.
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Your reasons for blogging are very similar to mine. Now I don’t have to try to express my experience–you’ve done it so eloquently!
But I don’t have the yummy recipes that you do. One of the many reasons I enjoy your blog. . .
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So good to know others feel the same! Would be great if there was such a thing as flash recipes — short and very quick to prepare, but with lasting effects!
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Wow, the feather table. He’d probably want to dance on it, rather than sit at it. I guess he’d be okay, as long as no one mentions plum sauce.
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Yea, Jama! So glad you mustered up the courage to blog–well-said.
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I would never have met you, otherwise!
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The first?
Jama, I had no idea that I was the first commenter on your blog! I know how you feel though, about that hesitancy to comment on blogs – some of these bloggers are so amazing; it feels as though surely, a comment from me is insignificant. I’m glad you’re here blogging, and that you kept track of that “first” – I’m really bad at remembering anniversaries! 😉
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Re: The first?
Yes, Kris, it was you! Fitting that my first comment would come all the way from Hawaii :)!
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